And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly. YOU are special! Did you know that before you were even a tiny speckle God knew all about you?! You have a unique purpose in this life and God decided from the very beginning that nobody in this world, but you could fulfil that particular purpose. Others can try to do what God has called you to do, but it won't work because He has called YOU to do it.
Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations. YOU deserve to be respected! Anyone who comes into contact with you should always treat you with respect. Remind yourself of your value and move on to bigger and better things. YOU deserve to be pursued! The man that God has set apart for you will know you are for him when he sees you.
There will be no games or indecisiveness, but rather a serious, mature approach to wanting to get to know you. He will understand that you are special and that he will have to step his game up in order to get your attention. He will make sure that God has instructed him to act and then he will take it from there. You are a catch, you deserve to be pursued by your future spouse. YOU are diligent! You are persistent and always working extremely hard to reach your goals.
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You try to not allow any distractions to throw you off course because you know what you have set out to accomplish. You take pride in your work and you never give up. This does not just go for work, but for your family too. You like to ensure that everything in your home is as it should be and if not you put in the necessary work to make sure that normality is restored. YOU are brave!
You have faced the darkest moments in your life alone, but yet you still carried on. Sometimes you had nobody, but God to turn to and you still told Him all that was on your mind. You often worried about what was going to happen next and God would tell you to "be still and trust in Him. You are braver than you may think. Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. He will neither fail you nor abandon you. YOU have an infectious personality! You have the kind of personality that leaves people with joy inside them; they lng to be around you because you are so full of happiness.
You offer them comfort when they need it and you are always there to lend an encouraging word or two.
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A lot of people admire and look up to you because you demonstrate love and kindness - even to those who may not deserve it. YOU are a Queen! Your future spouse shall treat you as such. He will be the one to show you off to everyone and praise the Lord daily for being blessed with such a magnificent woman of God. He will love you and your children with all of his heart and he will seek to treat you all with the amount of love and respect that you all deserve.
A couple I worked with recently recognized an example of this dynamic. The wife would often compliment her husband, but he rarely felt acknowledged by her words.
When she recounted some of the recent comments she made, she noticed that they were less of a reflection of him and more a reflection on her. Statements such as, "Aren't I married to such a handsome, well-put-together man? They were traits she valued in a partner that reconfirmed her own self-esteem and sense of worth. Love should never be an act of manipulation. It is not a mark of ownership over another person, but the exact opposite—a genuine appreciation of a person as a separate individual.
When we see a person this way, we allow ourselves to fully value them for who they are and for the happiness they bring to our lives. We are driven to be generous toward the person, to show compassion and kindness in a way that both they and the outside world would view as loving. Of course, there are many barriers we put in place that not only keep us from finding this type of relationship but from achieving it with the person we love. One reason we wind up in less-than-loving relationships is the ways we were treated in our past. We may have become familiar with family dynamics in which we were rejected or intruded on, in which case we tend to seek out or recreate these same dynamics in our adult relationships.
To become more loving thus means recognizing ways we self-sabotage : How are we recreating past hurts in our current relationships? As we reflect on these behaviors, we learn a lot, not only about how we interfere with our naturally loving feelings for others but about the negative ways we feel about ourselves. It's difficult to express love outwardly when we don't feel our own sense of self-worth. One of the biggest reasons we shut out love is because we feel unworthy or self-denying.
Therefore, to have a loving relationship, we must challenge our negative self-concept or critical inner voice. When we do this and take the loving actions that contradict our critical self-image, we enhance our own sense of worth and are able to get closer to the people we love.
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I sincerely took your article to heart after my boyfriend of two years and I separated last week. He sent this to me in a Facebook message, and everything started to make sense. I love him more than anything, but I made a huge mistake. I was the one in our relationship that ended up creating this "fantasy bond," likely because my greatest fear in life is losing the person that I love the most. It pushed me to expect certain things in our relationship such as him being home on time for dinner, watching movies or TV together, and attending all events I deemed important to me but not necessarily to him.
He felt guilty about going out to see his friends, but he would still make efforts to make me happy if I felt inadequate about the relationship. I thought he wasn't "passionate" enough, or "loving" enough towards me, yet in taking a step back, I realize now that he really was and I was being selfish. There were times where I didn't respect the choices he made for his own happiness, but I didn't realize it until it was too late.
At first, he thought I might be the girl he thought he could marry, but over time the emotional capacity for loving me diminished. He wouldn't hold my hand anymore, kiss me, or surprise me. He was more excited to see his friends than it was to see me, and I became depressed. I tried harder and harder to do little things to make him "love me more," but it pushed him away.
Finally, because I realized the love was somewhat "gone," I made the decision to separate so that he could have space and time away from me. Currently, half of the time he misses me and cares for me, and half of the time he is glad to be done with me. We're still living together, so seeing him every day breaks my heart. Either I've scarred his future ability to love someone because of my behavior, or maybe I just wasn't the right girl for him.
I can't bring myself to believe he doesn't love me anymore, but maybe I'm just "emotionally hungry," as you put it. My question is: after realizing a huge mistake that you've made, is there any way to bring it back? If I am able to alter my behavior to realize that I respect him for who he is, what he does, and how he wants to live his life, can his love for me grow again? I know that I can't ever force someone to love me back even if I do , but I know it was there to begin with.
How were you able to counsel the married couple, and were they able to see each other for what they truly were and make each other happy?
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It might or might not bring the relationship back that is his call too , but you will be improved and can utilize those new relationship skills in your next relationship. I appreciate your comment and was touched by it. It is possible to repair relationships. You are right that we can't change the past, but we are able to change the future. I have counseled many couples who have created a fantasy bond and have then been able to break it and get back to a close, loving feeling with each other.
We are also doing a weekend workshop on relationships that either individuals or couples can attend.
I know you are probably not close by, but just wanted to let you know. You will never to be able to form a new relationship and learn from your past mistakes if you are still living under the same roof as someone you used to have sex with. You should pay attention to the person you love, that's true. If you didn't really do that before, start doing it now. But you're not alone in this, he should pay attention to you too - so make sure he does, otherwise this relationship is not worth your effort.
He started separating from you before you separated, he was done with you and the relationship way before you were. I really enjoyed this piece. I think it highlights both the positive and negative aspects of love that emerge in romantic relationships. I recently wrote a blog on self-deception in romantic relationships that relates directly to your primary thesis. Thanks Lisa for your writesup, it gives me the idea to understand what really transpired in my recent relationship.
I met with a girl in the same institution i graduated from. I fell in love with her so easily without observing her level of comitment in loving me. After a long time of our relationship, i was so sad to realise she doesn't love me much. By the way she often complain in some way that my stature is not that presenting to her. By that time, Fisher was experiencing her own health woes, including possible brain cancer and problems with mysterious mold and environmental issues.
Fisher shares her reflections and insights into these loving relationships—both platonic and sexual—as well as her battles with addiction in a deeply personal yet accessible manner; readers will experience the subtle changes along with her as the narrative progresses. Fisher is not just another survivor of a grave illness; she has been transformed by letting another person love her without constraint. A well-written, emotionally uplifting tale of friendships, extreme illnesses, and understanding what love truly means. There was a problem adding your email address.